One thing is constructive criticism and quite another is criticism that hurts. They tell you they’re doing it “for your good,” but their comments only make you feel less.
Advice: Words that repeatedly hurt are not sincerity, they are passive aggression.
4. They isolate you from other people who do value you
In subtle ways, they make you distance yourself from your friends or loved ones. They fill you with doubts:
“Why do you talk to them so much?”
“I don’t know if that person suits you.”
Advice: Beware of who tries to be your “only link”. Healthy people don’t need you to isolate yourself to feel important.
5. They exhaust you emotionally
After every encounter or conversation, you feel drained, confused, sad, or angry… even if you can’t explain exactly why.
Advice: If your body and mind ask you to distance after being with someone, listen to them.
6. They make you doubt yourself
A bad person doesn’t need to yell or insult. It is enough that it sows insecurity. Question your decisions, your ideas, your way of thinking or being.
Advice: If you start to distrust yourself just because that person suggests it, it’s time to set limits.
7. He plays the victim all the time
He is never to blame. He always finds how to justify his mistreatment or his mistakes. If you demand something, she says that you are attacking her or that you are making her suffer.
Advice: Those who constantly victimize themselves so as not to assume their actions, manipulate your empathy.
8. Their presence changes your energy (for the worse)
There are people who, without saying much, darken your spirits. You feel tension when they are close. You have to measure your words and walk carefully so as not to generate conflict.
Advice: Your intuition is never wrong. If you feel persistent discomfort, it is a warning sign.
